September 14, 2015 10:42 PM EDT
I'd pick haafingar hold. One reason is its capital is easily defendable; being atop of a stone arch there is only one way for attackers to, well, attack. Another would be the trade. Solitudes docks and wharfs are located in the calmer waters of skyrim and allow great trade with other provinces
Matching my personality id be a honest and caring jarl. Although many of the imperial sympathizers would be angry with me when i reinstate talos as a divine and allow his worship. The Thalmor would ofcourse get their panties in a wad and demand his removal, which i would solidly refuse. I would then either diplomatically or forcefully remove the thalmor from my province on the grounds of them kidnapping and torturing the people of skyrim. Another thing that might tick some people off is that i would make solitude a city open to all races.
Since the imperials would be against the talos worship, i would join the stormcloaks but ulfric would have to be contempt with my rules or i would challenge him to succession by combat and become the new leader of the stormcloaks